Two parallel universes

20 Oct, 2022, No comments

September 9, 2022 at 11:04 am, No comments

Beyond intimacy and nesting, the boundaries of the couple will adapt to two parallel universes:

- The first universe is of emotion, it is that of childhood, its integrating center is the cerebral amygdala, it requires security, calm, listening, empathy, landmarks allowing the anticipation of care and desires. He is spontaneous, adaptive, curious, explorer, he is interdependent of the other to be shared and therefore reassuring.

- The second universe is rational, it is that of adults, its integrating center is the cerebral hippocampus, it requires an objective, memory, calculations, habits, efficiency, perseverance, although individual, it is shared in the development of the couple.

These universes remain parallel, without crossing it, they constantly exchange through particular relationships that are expressed in art.

Art is a set of techniques that allows the transfer of emotions.

Emotion is before action it is at the center of the universe of childhood, it is at the origin of everything, its energy is potential, it is articulated on the four pillars of Socrates' wisdom.

Action is at the center of the adult universe, it is the purpose of everything, its energy is dynamic, it is articulated in free will.

These universes are known to us because we were all children, they build us, structure us, but we mix them without distinguishing them.

The intimate space

1 Jul, 2022, No comments

It is difficult to talk about borders without mentioning the spaces they delimit.

Several relational spaces (respect, trust, sharing) are built and coexist when the couple is formed.

Development spaces specific to everyone, whose success leads to the strength and self-confidence of each and the couple.

Shared spaces for the common valorisation of project, culture, discovery, ethics, ... and intimate spaces that will transmit life.

- The intimate:

That's where life passes
It's a space specific to everyone, varying and adaptive
Its natural border is modesty
Only love allows it to be temporarily crossed
It's a powerful link
We are guests in the intimate of the other
Judgement opposes the intimate, passion animates it

- Nesting

It's after the intimate,
Extension of modesty, it allows you to live the intimate
It channels force into Defence, protects the fragility of the intimate and the exhausting life.
It structures the peace necessary for everyone's development
The nascent home is the refuge of the couple's life, it is the space of harmony and harmony
This shared space delimits new common borders, new exchanges, new defences in the name of the couple.

Life in ten verbs

12 Jun, 2022, No comments

It's almost a joke, but so true

1° Love : That's where we come from

2° To grow : To become stronger

3° Understand : We and what surrounds us

4° Learn : From experience to memory

5° To be : Graduated, recognised

6° Do : Good and lasting

7° To have : Fruit of work

8° Sharing : The beginning of wisdom

9° Disappear : Tired

10° Hold : All life, hold on and don't give up

Why are we talking about it?

28 May, 2022, No comments

Everyone finds their reasons, to understand, adapt, balance, anticipate, surprise this relationship

The couple exchanges two complementary components:

- A structuring fundamental relationship, seeking to orient force towards security and stability, necessary for the organisation of the family. Whose main virtue is respect.

- A relationship of form, channelling seduction to surprise with charm, emotion, culture. Whose main virtue is trust.

Each bringing his talents, including his humour, to adapt to the abilities of the other. Whose main virtue is exchange.

What borders are we talking about?

3 Apr, 2022, No comments

Borders delimit spaces, cultures, policies, economies, influences... they are joint, they limit differences. They are mainly characterised by their border crossing, a place of compliance with trade, regulations, controls...

For a couple, this metaphor illustrates the relationships that form its components, they are different but constantly exchanging, often in a complementary way.

With the particularity that these borders of the couple are flexible, moveable, non-joining, with more or less open border crossing.

It is these adaptive differences that we describe.

What couples are we talking about?

Two individuals who share their lives, their project, their future...

They are trained to appreciate and transmit life.

What exchanges are we talking about?

Each uses in his own way elements common to himself and/or the partner:

The 2 worlds: the intimate and the public whose border is called modesty

The 3 basics: Respect once and for all. Renewed confidence at every exchange. Sharing as often as possible.

The 8 forms of sensations: 2 proximals (taste, touch), 1 direct intermediate (olfaction), 2 distals (vision, hearing) 3 integration (intuition, relationship to the other, balance: hunger/satiety, fatigue/sleep, reflection/action)

The 3 character variations: primary / secondary, active / passive, introvert / extrovert

The 2 Influences: intrinsic / extrinsic: logical, rewards, coercive, informative, expertise, connectivity, referential, conviction

The 8 forms of power focus on their relationships: addiction, altruism, appearance or body, money, happiness, celebrity, trust, mistrust, self-centredness, loss of freedom, sexuality and loneliness

The 10 intelligences: logical, strategic, emotional, relational, creative, situational, pedagogical, bodily, existential, artificial

The 8 dynamics of humans: grow -> understand -> learn -> be ->do ->have ->share ->disappear

The right extension of power gives happiness: development -> fulfilment -> satisfaction -> sharing -> peace

Welcome post

1 Mar, 2022, No comments

What do you mean? Impossible, a couple has no boundaries!

In theory, a couple seeks harmony, unity...

This harmony is the art of accommodating the differences that compose it. It is based on mutual respect and trust.

The practice is different, daily life, habit, fatigue and stress change the way we look at our partner.

The positive vision of the couple shows the complementarity of its components,

The negative view of the couple emphasises the differences and oppositions.

The objective of this site is to offer reference points, exchanges and knowledge to avoid the pitfalls of the borders in formation.