Borders delimit spaces, cultures, policies, economies, influences... they are joint, they limit differences. They are mainly characterised by their border crossing, a place of compliance with trade, regulations, controls...

For a couple, this metaphor illustrates the relationships that form its components, they are different but constantly exchanging, often in a complementary way.

With the particularity that these borders of the couple are flexible, moveable, non-joining, with more or less open border crossing.

It is these adaptive differences that we describe.

Two individuals who share their lives, their project, their future...

Each uses in his own way elements common to himself and/or the partner:

The 2 worlds: the intimate and the public whose border is called modesty

The 3 basics: Respect once and for all. Renewed confidence at every exchange. Sharing as often as possible.

The 8 forms of sensations: 2 proximals (taste, touch), 1 direct intermediate (olfaction), 2 distals (vision, hearing) 3 integration (intuition, relationship to the other, balance: hunger/satiety, fatigue/sleep, reflection/action)

The 3 character variations: primary / secondary, active / passive, introvert / extrovert

The 2 Influences: intrinsic / extrinsic: logical, rewards, coercive, informative, expertise, connectivity, referential, conviction

The 8 forms of power focus on their relationships: addiction, altruism, appearance or body, money, happiness, celebrity, trust, mistrust, self-centredness, loss of freedom, sexuality and loneliness

The 10 intelligences: logical, strategic, emotional, relational, creative, situational, pedagogical, bodily, existential, artificial

The 8 dynamics of humans: grow -> understand -> learn -> be ->do ->have ->share ->disappear

The right extension of power gives happiness: development -> fulfilment -> satisfaction -> sharing -> peace